“I’m fat and unhappy about that”
“I’m unhappy because I’m fat”
“I’ll be happy when I’m slim”
These are a few of the things that patients and clients have said to me about their weight, little knowing that what they’re saying is a massive anchor in the ground. And it’s stopping them moving forward into a slimmer body, and better health.
Making a slimmer you a requirement for your happiness is holding you exactly where you are with your weight right now.
You see, your current health and weight are a reflection of the thoughts you have about them, because thoughts come first – thoughts precede the health you have.
Your weight is literally the shadow of your thoughts.
What do you consistently think about when it comes to your weight? What shadow are your thoughts casting?
If you’re fat an unhappy, you are thinking about where you are now, and you are thinking that you don’t like at all! The thoughts you are choosing to have are making you feel unhappy. But at the same time these thoughts are casting their ‘shadow’ into your life and health.
If you’re feeling bad about where you are at present with your weight – it means that you want something else. What is that, specifically? Because that is your starting point in removing this anchor.
I like to compare this to a holiday.
Imagine you’re a bit fed up with work. The negative feeling is telling you that you want something. You want a holiday!
Without that thought, you wouldn’t end up having a holiday. But you focus on what you want, you have lots of nice thoughts about a lovely holiday. And at some point the ‘shadow’ of these thoughts is cast, and you’re on holiday.
But if you continued to sit at work and think predominantly about how awful work was (and not about what you really wanted – the holiday), you would continue to sit stuck at work, feeling unhappy. But instead you have directed your thoughts towards what you really want, and felt good about it!
It’s a similar thing with weight loss.
You have to stop the focus on where you are now. You have to decide where it is you want to go instead, focus on that, and feel happy about it. You need to look forward to it.
This kind of thinking starts to remove the anchors in the ground that are holding you back from a slimmer more vibrant you.
Removing unhappiness about where you are now is one of the factors that allows you to move forward to ‘destination slim’. It also allows the journey to be fun and enjoyable, which often makes it faster too!
Have a go at this this week:
- Your negative thoughts about your body are telling you that you want something
- What specifically do you want?
- Spend time thinking about what you want (rather than what you don’t want)
- Keep reading my blogs for more tips!
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