You may see your problem as excess weight, but if you’ve spent years trying to get rid of it by dieting and exercising without success – your weight isn’t the problem, it’s merely a symptom of something else.
You can waste a shed load of time and energy (and probably money too) trying to correct what you perceive as ‘the problem’, but it isn’t actually the real problem! Which is why it never gets sorted out properly.
As a doctor I know that most modern health problems that we treat with pills are actually a symptom of something else, and modern medicine has got into the habit of putting a ‘sticky plaster’ over that symptom rather than digging deeper and actually helping the patient sort out the real problem.
When I was at medical school type 2 diabetes was also known as ‘late onset diabetes’, and usually affected older people. But that’s all changed now because the Western diet has changed a lot in recent decades.
I’d guess about 1% of the patients diagnosed with type 2 diabetes address the cause of their problem, and 99% treat the symptom by taking the pills instead.
The stats are probably similar for people who are overweight.
My coaching clients tend to discover pretty quickly that their excess weight is not actually their real problem, it’s merely a symptom of something else. So me giving just dietary advice isn’t going to work, or at least not for very long.
For most people excess weight is the outer visible effect of a deeper and less visible problem, that sometimes lurks in your subconscious mind just below your conscious awareness – which leaves you wondering why ‘nothing works’.
When I work one to one with people I don’t primarily focus on what you’re eating and what exercise you’re doing – at the start I put that to one side, because once the real problem has been exposed, looked at, and dealt with – the ‘eating right and exercise’ tends to fall into place.
I recently worked with a lovely lady who had the really common problem of not feeling ‘good enough’.
On the surface she came across as fairly confident but underneath it was a totally different story. She worried she wasn’t up to scratch at her job and that other people thought she was crap, she doubted herself in her relationship and felt insecure and unsexy at times, she often felt unable to keep up with her friends and inadequate when she compared herself to them.
The everyday undercurrent in this woman’s mind was “I’m not good enough”.
Weight is not an entity all by itself. It is part of you, it part of your everyday life. Equally – you as a person and your everyday life is linked to how you feel about your body, and your weight.
Approaching weight loss wearing blinkers and ignoring how it is woven into the rest of you and your life (i.e. going on a diet), misses the crux – it needs to be approached holistically.
If you don’t feel ‘good enough’ why on earth would you make the effort for yourself to change and give yourself something better – it just won’t happen because you’ll sabotage yourself at every turn.
Diets don’t work for weight loss – it’s a simplistic approach to a complex beast.
Your blinkers have to come off to find out what’s holding you back. You might know already what it is for you, but a lot of people don’t. If you’ve been trying for ages to lose weight – something is blocking you. You have to find it and knock it out of the way before you can get your health back.
Have a fantastic week!
PS I’ve got a couple of openings for one to one weight loss coaching with me coming up – Weight Loss Coaching with Dr Julie Coffey